I’ve been thinking about these perceptions that we have of ourselves and the way we “need” to be. And you see, I used quotations around need because it’s might not be reality.
As a woman, we feel we need to be certain things, do certain things, look certain ways, act a certain way. I’ve watched certain things and think “that’s how I need to be”, or “that’s the thing I have to do” or ” that’s the way I need to look”. There are so many things that I think about and debate about myself. And it’s not something that everyone can get over. At least that’s the way I feel. (I mean I’m trying).
For instance, sometimes I feel like I need to look like a certain way. That I need to wear make up every day. That I need to dress up fancy when going to work or to certain places. Now, don’t get me wrong, I wear work appropriate clothes to work. But keep telling myself that I don’t feel that I need to be wearing dress pants and blouses, dresses and skirts all the time. Nor do I feel that I need to be wearing heels, all the time. If I want to, that’s one thing. But I don’t feel that it’s a necessity. And really, neither should anyone. We should be able to dress how we want to and still be able to present ourselves well. It’s how you want to represent yourself.
I should be able to be comfortable in my own skin. Some days I wear make up, while others I don’t. Most days I tell myself I should wear make up. I should wear it to hide the bags under my eyes. I should wear it to brighten up my skin. I should wear it because it hides things. No – I should only wear it if it’s something I want to do.
What I’m trying to say is that we shouldn’t do / act / say / want things because it’s what others are doing. You should do it for you. If you want to dress up, put on make up every day, then do it. If you only want to do it some days, that’s cool. And if you don’t want to do it all, that’s cool too. You be you and I will be me.
I feel like I’m being judged all the time by the way that I look, do you? I feel like I’m being judged on the way I present myself. I feel like I’m begin judged all the time. Do you?